What Comes First

I was recently asked a question that I currently have some strong feelings about. The question was: What is one that thing that helps a relationship be successful? My response was quick, and in my mind very important. I in turn asked the questioner what their answer was. While I still believe that my answer (communication) is vital, the response I received has opened my eyes a bit more. The reply I received was simple but layered, and in short, living a Christ-centered life.

In the few days since this conversation, I've pondered what that really means. The query was in reference to a romantic relationship, but I believe that it can and should be applied to all associations we have. A marriage isn't just about a man and a woman. A true marriage involves God, so why wouldn't that apply to other relationships? By putting God and Christ first, and letting Them lead us, we cannot go wrong. That's not to say that there won't be hard times, but we will be blessed for our obedience. By putting Christ at the center of our dealings, they will be more honest, sweeter, and more fulfilling.

This principle is something that I do inherently. It's not something I really think about, and I'm not perfect, but I do my best to let myself be led by the Spirit. I try to listen intently to what I'm being told, and to act accordingly. Not long ago I was made to feel bad for doing so. For weeks, I've felt horrible because someone was hurt because I wasn't putting them first.  Well, it took a stranger's words to make me see what I already knew. I was not at fault, and I shouldn't be ashamed. I'm living my life the best I know how, and my Heavenly Father lets me know in a very unique and special way that I'm doing what is right. I'm moving in the right direction, on the correct path, and in the end that's what truly matters.